Moving from Indecision to Decision

​You realize you hit a plateau and it is time for a change. You work yourself up, feel frustrated about a situation for days, months or years. You decide on all the reasons it’s time to make a change. Pump yourself up: “I’m committed! I’m doing it! It’s time! I can’t deal with this any longer!” You summon the courage and start to make the leap.
Then freeze.
And panic.

• What if it’s the wrong decision?
• What if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to?
• What if you get hurt emotionally?
• What if you hurt someone else emotionally?
• What if you can’t go back?
• What if it doesn’t sound the way you want it to?
• What if people don’t get it? 
• What if you can’t find the work?
• What if it’s too much work?
• This feels way too risky, why in the world did you decide this was a good idea again?
• What if this was all just a terrible, horrible idea?
• Who were you to think you could be that strong/smart/brave? Or have that much? Or be that big in this world?

So then you retreat and you pick a direction – any direction – without thinking it through just to get out of the panic you are currently in.

Often this means going backwards or second guessing the decision that just a few days ago you had fully committed to and had decided was your best option based on what you wanted most.

​What the heck happened? 

You talked yourself out of something that could have been amazing for your wellbeing, your life and your future. Often this occurs because you are trying to expand into being bigger, greater, more successful and happier than you currently are. And that can be super scary. It’s a risk. A leap of faith. A hope and a dream. Until you make it a reality.

In my life I’ve discovered that if I cling to the notion that something’s not possible, I’m arguing in favor of limitation. And if I argue for my limitations, I get to keep them.~
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

Are you willing to fight for and focus on what is possible instead of what is limiting you?

This is all part of moving forward with flaws and failures and all. Making decisions about what will make you happiest. And following through. Pushing through the fear and not allowing it to take over. Then trusting that life will unfold from there as it’s meant to because you made the decision to be happier. 

​What if your decisions lead to more fun and happiness, more  love, joy, and happiness? The possibilities are endless and it is up to you to take the leap!

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