Getting Out of Your Own Way
You have great ideas and visions for what you want in your life, whether that's starting a business, a new career, reinventing your business, health and wellness or relationship. However you can't quite get there and wondering what is going on and why you can't hit the mark. It is quite a frustrating experience.
What do you think is the biggest roadblock that gets in your own way of getting what you want? Yes you guessed it, you! I know, not always fun to hear.
Now that you have some awareness of this, you can choose differently and make some shifts. Without the awareness, we can't make the shifts. I will share a few ways we get in our way and suggestions to move forward.
Self-Doubt: When you are up to new things, self-doubt can attempt to run the show. You may ask yourself: Am I enough? Can I actually do this? Am I worthy of this? Do I have what it takes? What if I really mess up? Most people up to big things feel some sort of imposter syndrome. You are challenging yourself outside of your comfort zone. The good news is that we don't have to listen to all of your thoughts, they are not always accurate of your ability to achieve something and we get to choose different thoughts and thoughts that actually serve us.
Not trusting yourself or others: You may find yourself looking for external validation from your friends, partner, or family for what you should you do. You may find it really hard to decide for yourself on what is best for you. While yes it is helpful to bounce ideas off of others, their advice may not always be what is best for you and indicative of what you need. A practice would be a round of deep breathing to get grounded, connect with yourself, your heart, and soul. Listen for what comes up. We have the answers within us, it's trusting in ourselves to actually hear it.
Not asking for support and doing it alone: Some of us super independent people try to do it alone and don't think we need support. Guess what? We ALL need support. You are worthy of being fully supported. The thing is, you can actually get to where you are going a bit quicker with support around you. A practice would be is asking for support, whether that's to be heard, a referral for your business or some encouragement.
Not allowing or open to receiving: So maybe you are gaining traction on your goals and good things are starting to roll in. If you are not open to allowing the good things to come in, whether that's money or love, or whatever, you create an energetic block of actually getting what you want. A practice may be of simply allowing: whether that's a compliment, money flow, or love.
Having a beautiful vision and not taking action: You have this beautiful vision of what you want in your life, you can see it, feel it, taste it. However without action, you won't get there. A practice would be creating an action plan and steps to reach your goal and setting up some accountability structures.
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You Are Enough.
You are enough. Just as you are. Period.
So what does this mean to be enough?
You are enough means that you were made to be you, as you are, on purpose. You are enough as you are, mess and all, beautiful as you are, showing up for your life every day. That’s all you have to be and all you have to do. You’re already enough.
You are enough means you can grow and change and continue to become, because you aren’t trying to prove yourself.
You are enough means that you don’t have to strive to become more worthy, more valid, more acceptable, or more loved. You already are all of those things.
There are things you may want to be more of. Openness. Honest. True. Authentic. Free. Connected. Intentional. Purposeful. Those are all expressions of your enough-ness. They aren’t about changing yourself, they’re about being yourself.
You were enough before, you are enough now, and you will continue to be enough as you become more of who you were made to be. And believing that, when the world keeps whispering otherwise, is brave.
Because “you are enough” does not mean that you have been measured and considered and judged, and that you have finally earned the label of “enough.”
It doesn’t mean that you’ve worked long enough, tried hard enough, presented well enough.
It’s simply who you are. The you that you are is enough.
You don’t have to be more, or do more, or buy more to be who you are meant to be.
That’s what I mean when I say you are enough.
You are enough does not mean that you are a final product, complete and finished, all done growing and changing and learning things forevermore.
Having a good grasp on “enough” means you don’t have to get everything, and you certainly don’t have to be everything.
You are enough does not mean that you have to be self-sufficient. It doesn’t mean that you don’t need anyone or anything else. It means you understand how much you do need, how small you are in this great grand universe — and that you don’t have to be even one inch bigger than that.
You are enough absolutely does not mean that you never need help. When you know you are enough, it’s easier to ask for help. It’s easier to admit your weaknesses. You know that your imperfections and your difficulties don’t reflect on your worth, because you are already enough, just as you are.
You are enough does not mean that you are flawless, or that you never make mistakes.
You make mistakes. I make mistakes every single day. I’m aware of my flaws.That doesn’t mean that my flaws are the truest, most important thing about me, it just means that I acknowledge them. I see them there. They exist.
You are enough flaws and all. You are worthy of all the amazing things you want in your life.
The Art of Slowing Down
I’m noticing a trend in talking with my clients about slowing down a notch. I also noticed my own desire and need to slow down too. We live in such a fast paced world these days. Do more, hustle, work really hard, do it right now, do everything now, and do it super fast. There is also working longer hours to achieve more and being connected all the time with technology and being always “on.”
It doesn’t have to be that way to get the results you want and the life you want.
I have been practicing slowing down this year, having boundaries around what I will take on and knowing what I have to let go that is not serving me or aligned with my purpose. I’m breathing easier, I feel the joy in the little things, I feel lighter and freer. Yet I am still in action making things happen and doing. I’m just coming from a different place and being.
Our nervous systems can begin working in overdrive.. for years. When we actually slow down, access stillness without the force and push, it can be slightly confusing to the system and maybe disorienting! You can also see things a little clearer, what you though you wanted, maybe wasn’t the thing for you. What you thought that mattered, maybe didn’t so much.
Slowing down can be a bit terrifying(yet I still recommend it!) Doing too much can be a cover up for fear, wounds, anger, shall self-worth. Do more to gain acceptance and love, do more to not feel all the feelings. We avoid just being in our own humanity.
Just slow things down and it becomes more beautiful. ~David Lynch
There is freedom in flow and ease. More space to create, to be, expand, live. So many of us are breathless, pushing harder to achieve. It’s not passion, it’s a bit punishing.
Slowing down is brave, flow, and faith. Slowing down is not being in action or not going for your deep desires and vision, it’s about you actually being there and being and seeing all of it. With presence and joy while you impact the world in your own way and live the life you want.
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.