Deciding when to let go and move forward is not an easy task and decision. At some point in the course of our lives we are faced with making a decision around letting go of something that no longer serves us, Maybe it is a relationship, a job, a certain career path, or even a friend. It can be downright heartbreaking.
When we are approaching a life change questions can arise: Should I stay or should I go? Should I buy or save? Should I move or not? We can spend a lot of time in this process of “should” as we try to create the best outcome for our life. The problem? In doing this, we often hold onto what no longer works for us or make a decision for other people. We stop trusting our own intuition to what we want and need, what’s healthy for us or not.
You may have often heard phrases such as “giving up is never an option.” When there is a time something is hurting our health, resources or potential for happiness, we have to look closely about why we are actually staying.
Romantic relationships, jobs, even places we live sometimes come to an end. Sometimes life presents us with other opportunities. Sometimes we hold on to things that aren’t working out of fear we won’t find something better.
Perhaps our greatest fear is the unknown, which is why so many of us grasp, hold on and manipulate our situations trying to control our surroundings. But the outcome can be the same: more pain, immense frustration and ginormous guilt and blame.
When we let go of things that no longer serve, we actually create space for what we really want to create. I left a job that I didn't love many years ago to start my business. Totally scary, but I began doing work I really loved and supported people in a whole different way. Most recently I am reinventing my business and letting some things go to really create what's in my heart and do what really lights me up. I'm also moving offices(after 10 years of being in the same building) and changing up my schedule to free up space for other adventures.
I love the expression “life is a process of holding on and letting go”. We strive to make the “right” choices and decisions, but how do we really know when to let go and move on? Here are a few things to consider when making the decision to stay or move on:
This list serves as a compassionate guide to support you to make the right choice for you. Trust your intuition and inner knowing and don’t be afraid to ask for support and extra love!
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.