Last week I organized a stand up paddle event for business leaders in the community to network and connect. The weather forecast was on an off all day and rapidly changing. We decided to go for it and paddle as it was clear when we started.
In the background there was thunder and we can see a storm cell in the distance rolling on by. We decided not to go too far just because the weather was unpredictable. A couple of us stopped for a few minutes to just to chat and the wind pushed us a little farther out in the lake. So we started paddling back towards shore.
I look behind us and I can see the rain coming towards us as we were paddling back. At first I thought we could make it back before we got hit. Then I heard thunder and saw lightening as we were getting closer to shore. The water was rough and the wind was blowing, I was paddling my little heart out!
There was a part of me that knew I was going to get back to shore and be safe. I have been caught in the rain out on the lake by a fast moving storm many times and always got back ok.
But the other part of me felt a bit of panic. Oh no, what if I get struck by lightening and die? What if someone gets hurt? Why can’t I paddle fast enough? Fear was present for those 5 or so minutes. I noticed a fellow paddler being super calm and going with the flow of it and paddling with ease, and I noticed my panic and fear and how hard I was paddling. I wanted to run, but couldn’t, I just had to paddle back. But how I was being was making me feel worse. So, I took a few deep breaths, calmed myself down, and continued to paddle back through the rain.
We all have automatic ways of being when feel fear or when we are confronted. I invite you to take a look at your automatic way of reacting to fear. Maybe you run, maybe you hide, suffer, freak out or just shut down. Just notice your response and perhaps how it shows up in others of your life when you are confronted or scared. Just notice without judgement.
Noticing your automatic response is helpful. You may have a reaction that comes up for you such as fear and a way of reacting to it, but you can always choose something different. For me on the lake that day, I chose to breathe and go with it. I arrived at the dock in a much calmer state of mind and enjoyed my last few minutes on the lake! There will always be unexpected storms in life which will challenge us, noticing ways we want to react and choosing something different can be empowering and impactful.
This this past weekend I had the honor of teaching yoga at Triple Play Farm that hosted Davidson LifeLine’s Spring into Wellness event. Triple Play provides Equine Assisted Psychotherapy and the farm is a beautiful and peaceful place to spend an afternoon! Did I mention there was ice cream?
The past 4 months have been a whirlwind for me that started with mom taking a fall at Christmas and having to leave her home of 65 years and go into long term care. I am her POA and had to learn fast about elder care and get on top of her finances to coordinate her care. I also sold her home in New Jersey, which was my childhood home. On top of taking several trips back to New Jersey, I have been traveling one weekend a month to NYC from Charlotte, NC for leadership training. On top of running my counseling business and growing my Life and Career Coaching biz. On top of getting my work outs in, connecting with my team and my friends.
It just hit me when I was out on the farm this weekend that I really need to slow it down, breathe and get back to being. One of things about yoga I love so much is the breathing and slowing down to be more present in the moment. I feel the same way about spending time outdoors in nature.
We live in a society where there is much emphasis on being busy and productive…all.the.time.
Someone I worked with once shared they wanted to quit the “busy club”. I get it. Have you ever asked someone how they are doing and their response is “Great, I’m crazy busy!” So, since when did being busy make our lives better? Whatever happened to encouraging relaxation, peace, joy? Simply just being? I totally get having goals and taking action steps to reach your intended goals, that is important too. So is having connections with others and interests we love. We seem to forget about relaxation and being in the present because there is 'always something to do'.
Being busy and productive can be quite an addictive cycle and stems from all different reasons. Sometimes we use being busy and productive as a measure of self-worth. The more we feel productive and busy, we connect it to feelings of self worth and compare ourselves to others. Many times people equate being busy as a measure of success. For others, it can be the feeling they have to do it all.
So if this resonates with you, you are not alone. This also doesn’t have to be a way of being all the time either. Nor does it have to define your worth. You get to choose. Choosing to quit the busy club is possible. Consider that time is made up and you get to create it with intention.
Consider this a reminder that relaxation is healthy. Slowing down, taking a technology break and taking time for ourselves to get back to being is just as important as achieving goals. It may actually assist with reaching your goals, just coming from a place of ease and intention and not as much busyness and force.
Taking care of your well-being may look different for everyone. The areas to take a look are physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, and relationships. Are there areas that need a little more attention? What shifts can you make to get back to being? I love the expression 'we are human beings, not human doings.'
So for me, this means getting plenty of sleep and rest. Taking walks outdoors, getting my yoga practice in. Saying 'no' to meetings to take care of myself. Connecting with important people in my life. Joy, play, laughter and of course adventure. I have an amazing support system and my own coach to share with. Reading a good book, being creative, listening to good music. Allowing myself to slow down. Addressing nutrition and hydration as well.
So.. take care of you and your well-being. It’s ok to slow down to relax… and just be.
Photo cred: Triple Play Farm
Many of you know that I expanded my business to include Life and Career Coaching in addition to providing therapy. I have been getting a lot of questions about what coaching actually is. So I decided to share a little more. Perhaps you are looking to make a shift in your own life. Maybe you heard of life and career coaching but not quite sure what it is…if you’re curious read on.
Coaching is similar to therapy, however it's not exactly the same. Coaching does address blocks, beliefs, and wounds. However coaching focuses on the present and future, building on the hard, deeper work you may have already done in counseling or therapy. Although therapy can focus on moving forward and the future, it's a different support system more focused on building new coping mechanism or can be more process oriented. Both are fantastic support systems and modalities.
Coaching is a partnership that focus on you, what you want, and your vision for your life. It is powerful conversations about creating your life and moving beyond your current comfort zone. I coach clients on aspects of their career, business, relationships, wellness or areas of their life they want to make a shift in. We may start to focus on one area of your life, but other areas will be impacted as they are connected and impact each other.
Coaching also provides an opportunity to understand the blocks you may not see for yourself and how to overcome them, allowing you to create the life you want and be who you truly want to be.
Coaching allows you to create your life from a place of possibility and empowerment, instead of a place of how you think it should be or has to be. You get to choose outside of your circumstances and feelings. I am here to support your ability to see things for what they really are by providing reflections, asking provoking questions, and standing for what you say you want.
Coaching can support you get you unstuck from ineffective habits and patterns by building effective communication and relationship skills and offering encouragement and empowerment along with accountability. Coaching can move you forward to the life you wish to create...from your own design.
If you're curious to learn more, let’s talk!
PS: I see people in my office or on-line via FaceTime or zoom.
PPS: Photo from my trip to Croatia
What lights you up? What is that thing you really want to do but haven’t done yet?
Maybe it sounds something like this….
I am going to quit my job and start a biz.
I am going to book a trip to New Zealand. (I highly recommend NZ by the way)
I am going to stand up for myself.
I am going to get a new job that lights me up.
I am going to tell that special someone I love them.
I am going to sign up for that race.
I am going to get in shape and feel healthy.
I am going to improve my relationships with my partner.
I am going to do that thing I keep talking about.
Does this sound familiar?
What are you not moving forward in? Maybe it’s one thing, maybe its a few. Write them down on a sticky note.
We all have things we want to do, dreams, beautiful visions for what we want our life to look like. You know, the ones that light us up and get excited about. Then there are the blocks, the stops, the delays in not going forward with our visions. Maybe it’s that little voice you hear- I’m not ready, I’m not enough, I don’t deserve that thing, I can’t do it.
Write these reasons on another sticky note. I like sticky notes. Look at this one next to your dreams and take a look.
So, what do you see?
Amazing life on one side and BS stories we tell ourselves on the other. The BS stories are made up, they don’t define who you are and the life you live. The stories will keep you from the life you want to create...if you choose.
I get it. Been there. I remember all the fears and doubts coming up when I started my business, the reinvention of my career, my first time traveling internationally solo and my first race. It went from “I’m so freaking excited” to "what the hell am I doing?” One story is totally disempowering and the other is more empowering and way more fun! It was also my choice of which place to come from.
Post that sticky note of what you want to create somewhere where you can see it daily. Recycle the other one.
This is your life to create…dream big and take action! If you need a little support getting there, reach out to me!
PS: Picture from a backpacking trip in Peru on our way to Machu Picchu after climbing our highest peak at about 16,000 ft. elevation!
Somehow we learned to have date expectations on what we will accomplish and what's supposed to happen in our life. It starts off as a child- we will walk by age 1, have a drivers license at age 16, go to college and graduate by age 21, get married and have babies in our 20’s etc. The list goes on.
I went to college and graduated relatively “on time”, went to graduate school, graduated and gained employment. I met my future husband, got married in my 20’s. Then in my early 30’s...divorce. Wait, that wasn’t the plan! I thought I was supposed to get married, have babies and live happily after? Ok that was what I thought in my 20’s and that there was a certain path I thought I needed to follow in order to be successful.
Although I was devastated by divorce and the stigma around it, this event set me on a new trajectory. I had the opportunity for reinvention and this time, on my terms. I challenged old belief systems of what I thought had to do and traded it with what I want to do.
Right after divorce, I went to Costa Rica and traveled. I adore travel and adventure and love seeing the world. I always had dreams of being self-employed, so I started my own business- a counseling private practice. Through having my own business, I gained a greater sense of self-confidence as I was making it happen and doing it on my own. I followed my heart and went for it and 12 years later I am still self-employed!
I went on to travel the world and have been to some amazing places. I developed my original love for the outdoors and began hiking a lot more. I have hiked all over the world. I began running and challenging myself through races. I developed my passion for my hobbies and met some incredible people along the way.
So a couple years ago I hit a plateau in my life. So I hired my own coach and then followed a long time dream of mine- to become a coach! I enrolled in a rigorous one year program and here I am, building a new business…at 45! Reinvention again!
So, not everything happens on an unexpected time line. I let go of societal expectations and limiting expectations of myself. By setting aside these expectations, I discovered that it gave me the mental space to realize that I AM far greater and deserving than the limited expectations I had once put on myself. Belief systems of what I “should be” were now squashed by what I “could be” and “would be”. I also discovered I am far greater than the expectations others have put on me.
Let me tell you, this hasn’t happened with out fear. I had a ton of fear, anxiety. I had grief of my divorce and the loss of my dad. I grieved the loss of my in-laws that I adored. It took some time, but I allowed myself to feel all the feelings I needed to feel- anger, sadness, grief, and joy and excitement.
My life shifted when I really let go of those expectations and began trying new things. As I said above, I am far greater than the expectations myself or others placed on me. When I think about all the experiences over the years, I get excited because I made them happen....I did it!
Every time that I hiked a mountain, tried something new, traveled a new place, ran a race, the old version of me dissolved giving way to a far more integrated me.
I chose to stretch myself mentally and physically, placing Unlimited Potential for my new life and growing in ways I never thought possible.
I have dreams and visions of what I will create next. I want to be me, I want to give back, I want to inspire others, I want to love hard, I want to see more of this amazing world. I get to reinvent myself at any age…. on my own timeline.
What would reinvention look like to you if you push your limiting beliefs aside, get adventurous, and see what is possible?? I can’t wait to hear!!
We often don’t talk about what we really want from a friend or what kind of friend we want to be. Many happily married people will tell you, the reason why their marriage is successful is because of their strong friendships. As many happily single people will tell you, the reason why they're happy is because of their solid network of support.
A truly like-minded and like-hearted individual with whom you share that special alchemy — is a gift.
Just like one of the keys to a successful partnership is to learn about what it means to give love, one of the secrets to attracting and sustaining meaningful and rich friendships is to become the friend you wish to have. I love the thought: Be the person you wish to attract.
So, I have given it some thought about what kind of friend I want to be and what qualities I would like in a close friendship. So for me, these are a few things that stand out. A good friend:
1. Listens with empathy and presence
This is, perhaps, the most important is being present and listening without interruption or offering unsolicited advice. A great friend listens with an open heart, is fully present and asks follow-up questions that indicate the she was, in fact, really listening.
2. Holds space for other
When someone is talking about trouble at work, for example, a great friend doesn't turn the conversation to talk about trouble at her job unless it's completely in service of supporting the one who initiated the conversation. There are times one person may be in need of support, and other times you may need support and the space held for you. A great friend is mindful of time and space and acts accordingly.
3. Has good boundaries
A great friend is able to keep secrets and is honest. If someone shares something private with you, a great friend doesn't share it with anyone else without explicit permission.
4. Supports others' successes
A great friend is a cheerleader. If your friend strikes a book deal, you take her out to lunch. If your friend meets the woman of his dreams, you make time to hear every detail. You take genuine pleasure in others' joy, even if you're struggling to find your own at times.
5. Is vulnerable
A great friend doesn't only share what's working in his or her life, but is also willing to share the "shadow" elements. This doesn't mean getting stuck in a victim mentality where you're always complaining, but it does mean not falling prey to the cultural injunction to "put on a happy face." Even if all your friends think you have a perfect marriage, for example, you make sure you share the struggles as well.
6. Makes time to connect
Love is action in all relationships, which means it's not enough to say I love you; you need to act in loving ways. A great friend makes time to remain connected through telephone calls and in-person dates (if it's not a long-distance friendship). And texting isn't real communication. It serves a function to communicate perfunctory information, but it doesn't build or maintain true intimacy.
7. Honors commitments
If you say you're going to be there at 3pm, be there at 3pm. If you can't make it by then, a great friend communicates that she's going to be late. Being regularly late sends a clear message that your friend isn't important enough to honor a time commitment, even if that's not what you're trying to communicate.
8. Can tolerate another's pain
Like #1 above, being able to tolerate your friend's pain is a rare quality. I mean being able to hold a wide and compassionate space for your friend to go through his or her grieving process, no matter how long it takes. A great friend is able to listen to a friend crying without having to say or do anything. The silence communicates profound respect for the depth of vulnerability that your friend is trusting you enough to share with you, and a great friend holds it with care.
A great friend is a gift to cherish for a lifetime and is often the lifeline that gets you through the rough patches of daily living. If you've even one or friend who embodies these qualities, count your blessings!
Last week I was out on my morning run and stumbled across a huge branch on the trail. So I climbed over it and so gracefully got my foot stuck and fell down in the mud! So it had me thinking about having goals and visions then hitting an obstacle on my path and my own relationship with obstacles.
From time to time, we all have setbacks, blocks and obstacles on our path to achieving success and living the life of our dreams. We’re told that we just have to be determined, push harder, and strive to overcome these landmines.
But does it ever feel like you’re forcing a square peg into a round hole? Like no matter how hard you try, you’re completely blocked?
How I faced that branch on my path is typical of how I tackle roadblocks. I climb over them and push my way through them. Yes, my persistence does work sometimes and I reach my goal. I also sometimes fall down in the mud because I pushed too hard.
I noticed the times that I stopped forcing and started allowing is when things really started to move for me. This doesn’t mean I don’t take action steps and face the obstacles presented, it’s simply done with less push, force and angst.
Blocks can be a great teacher. If you pay close enough attention, you might just be able to create a breakthrough. Here are four ways that blocks can actually lead to success:
1. Blocks point out where things aren’t flowing for you.
When you can’t write anymore, your inspiration is gone for the day. When you can’t run any longer, your muscles are exhausted. When you can’t think anymore, your productivity for that meeting plummets. Blocks pop up in areas of our life where energy just isn’t flowing. It warns us that something just isn’t working here and it’s time to take a break, or go a different route. Sometimes that pause can help you reconnect to what your vision is, and sometimes we realize the original goal no longer serves us.
2. It feels unnatural to you.
Most blocks come about because we’re forcing something that was never a good fit to begin with. We’re trying to do things the way we’re told they’re supposed to be done or we’re trying to hide certain parts of our personality. So maybe traditional marketing isn’t your thing, but hosting fun parties is and focusing on connection is. Whatever the case, blocks point out when things feel unnatural and encourage us to be more authentic.
3. Sometimes the best way to get through a wall is just to walk around it.
We can be so obsessed with an obstacle that we forget why we were trying to overcome it in the first place. Maybe you want a book deal because it will help you get more clients. If the book deal isn’t working, that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to never get more clients. Forget the obstacle and find a new path to your ultimate goal. Many times, obstacles point out that one tiny part of the plan isn’t working, not the whole thing.
4. Lack of resources teaches you how to be resourceful.
When you’re unable to move forward, you have no choice but to get creative. The advantage of being pushed to the edge of the cliff is that we learn how to fly. Blocks teach us things about ourselves that we never thought possible and push us to blow our expectations out of the water.
So the next time you come up to a block in your life, consider that maybe it’s there for a reason. Maybe it’s there to teach you what comes naturally to you or where things flow for you. Maybe it’s there to help you figure out just how much potential you really have inside. Maybe it’s there to help you stop taking on other people’s blueprints for success and start building your own.
Once you realize what you can really accomplish, good luck to anything that tries to get in your way.
If you are feeling blue in the winter, you're not alone! Lots of people feel a bit low as the days get darker and colder. But while many experience the winter blues, there are some who experience seasonal affective Disorder(SAD). SAD can be quite debilitating and can cause feelings of sadness, irritability, sluggishness, and eating and sleep disturbances.
Although it's likely to be caused by multiple factors, seasonal affective disorder and winter blues have been closely linked to lessened exposure to light since the days get shorter and darker throughout fall and winter. This could lead to a cascade of physiological changes, including a disruption of the circadian rythyms, lower vitamin D feels, dysregulation of serotonin, and overproduction of melatonin. Couple this with post-holiday blues and a dislike of cold temperature, and you many find yourself longing for warmer, longer, sunnier days.
1) Notice Your Patterns
As the fall sets in, I've made a habit to ask my clients about their mood patterns over the past several fall and winter seasons. Upon reflection, many people can start to recognize that their moods worsen during this time frames and this knowledge is powerful. It enables us to work proactively to structure their winters and plan ahead of time to combat their seasonal blues.
2) Rule out medical causes
Haven't gotten around to that annual physical yet? Now might be a good time to visit your doctor. Various medical issues, including viral illnesses and endoncrinologial disorders such as thyroid disfunction, can disguise themselves as a low mood in the winter. A lack of certain vitamins can also contribute, as seen below.
3) Check your Vitamin D levels
Low Vitamin D levels particular have been associated with depressive symptoms. Further, vitamin D levels notoriously drop during the wintry months. For this reason, many physicians will test your Vitamin D levels and may suggest vitamin D supplementation to help boost your mood during the winter.
4) Rethink the winter
Reframing your thoughts about the wintertime can be quite powerful. Many people in the darkest, most northern cities view wintertime differently. It's often seen as a time that is cozy, a time for celebration and togetherness with loved ones. I look at winter as a period of rest for the spring, summer, and fall.
5) Soak up the natural light
Exposure to natural light can help with low mood. Bundle up and try to get out of the house, even on cooler days, to get ample exposure to natural light. While in your house, open your shades to allow natural sunlight in. Perching yourself by those windows will give you a little boost from the natural light.
6) Create your own sunlight
Lightboxes are widely recommended by physicians in the treatment of winter depression. Designed to mimic the sunlight, medical-grade lightboxes also come with UV filters that block out harmful UV rays that are damaging to the skin. A short but consistent 20-30 minute exposure to the light created by these light boxes every morning can be high effect with minimal side effects for most people. Since light boxes are not consistently regulated, it's important to seek out a physicians guidance when choosing one.
7) Connect with others
As the winter wears on, many of us can feel like withdrawing from our social lives. While enjoying cozy time at home may protect us from braving the cold, it can also result in avoidant and isolating behaviors that can leave us feeling lonely and sad. Reaching out to our friends and make sure our social calendar remains active and fulfilling is a great way to combat those winter blues and help us feeling connected and supported.
8) Get moving
Exercise is known to be protective for our mood, can lower levels of stress, and, for many of us, holds a strong association with mental and physical well-being. While exercising outsides gives you the dual benefit of natural-light exposure and physical activity, sometimes the weather can make that impossible. On those days, hitting the gym, and choosing equipment closer to the window is ideal. I love a warm yoga class on a cold day too!
9) Stay Structured
Fight the urge to snooze in bed for that extra hour and instead opt to stick to your normal routine. Having regular sleep-wake times and sticking with your schedule can help structure your day, keeping you feel productive, and combat the sluggishness that often occurs with the winter blues. It's tempting to sleep for longer hours during those darker days, research has shown that excessive sleep is neither medically or mentally healthy.
10) Stay away from certain foods
Certain dietary choices are linked to an increased risk of seasonal affective disorder. Maintaining good health through eating balanced and nutritious meals is essential in protecting yourself against SAD. Specifically, SAD, is associated in increased carbohydrate cravings, so being mindful of carb intake and limiting refined sugar could help curb irritably along with eating anti-inflammatory foods can support good mental health at any time of the year. Drink alcohol moderately as it is a known depressant and can affect your mood, behaviors, and sleep cycles. Staying hydrated can be helpful too.
11) Self Compassion and Self-Care
You may not be feeling on your A game right now, have compassion for where you are. What are some things you might need right now? A long hot bath? Catching up with a good book? Is there anything you can let go of right now to create space for yourself? Take time for you and what you need right now.
12) Seek professional help
It might be one of the reasons above, but there could also be other explanations for low mood this time of year. The holidays can stir up difficult family dynamics or feelings of sadness that we are left to contend with after the busyness of the holiday season ends. It can be incredibly powerful and effective to seek a therapist's assistance in helping to explore and work through these emotions.
While the above-mentioned tips are highly effective for most people, if you find yourself still struggling with your mood, it may be time to be evaluated by a physician or schedule an appointment with a licensed a licensed therapist. While the above information is helpful to know, it should not be taken for medical advice.
Spring is coming shortly!! :)
Anytime we are stepping out of our comfort zone and trying for something, whether that be asking someone on a date, starting a new business, climbing mountains, changing jobs, etc., we are going to feel some degree of fear. Our minds want to keep us safe and it's easy to confuse the fear with whether we should take the next step or stay in our safe, comfort zone.
I remember when I started my business(14 years ago this week!), I remember thinking: How risky is this? Is it worth it? Can I really make this happen? Do I have what it takes? I remember being super nervous and fearful, but excited too. Someone recently told me that I was fearless. No, I most definitely experience fear.
I also spend a lot of my free time hiking, trail running and mountain biking. There have been big falls that created some fear when I did my sport again and there are times I've walked along a cliff and felt my heart race. I arrived in foreign countries and felt panic initially when I didn't speak the language.
So what are the pros? Doing something I loved. Turning a passion into a career. Building my confidence when I faced my fears and did it anyway. The cons? Making mistakes. Taking on significant emotional and financial stress. Giving up a stable job. I may trip and fall down again and get hurt.
Ultimately, I decided I couldn't live forever in fear of the cons. Yes, there are risks involved with owning a biz. Yes, I may fall again when I trail run or mountain bike. There could be a root I trip over, I may have a slow month in my business. I may still have fear but I don't dwell on those fears. Instead, I acknowledge my fears, but I don't let them be in the driver's seat of my decisions. I continue run my business and I won't stop climbing or running mountains.
I created a mini road map of tools that helped me manage my fears of failure and to embrace risk. Whether you're starting your own company or trying to achieve another goal, these tips are highly relatable no matter what mountain you're trying to conquer:
1. Be honest with yourself
Before embarking on a risky endeavor, assess your strengths and weaknesses. What are your necessary hard and soft skills to improve the likelihood of success? If you don't, how can you acquire them, or whom can you bring on board to help?
2. Commit to the endeavor
Once you decide that you're equipped to take on the risk, commit and go for it. Wavering only increases fear and doubt. Don't look back. Stay focused on the end goal. You are more like to get what you want when you make a strong commitment to it. I love when I set out on a hike or a trail run, I have no choice but to find my way to the trail head. I can't quit or I will be stuck in the middle of the woods without food or water!
3. Stay grounded.
As you barrel toward your goal, it's easy to feel out of control and ungrounded. Fear is going to get triggered and you may want to run in the opposite direction! Learn to fight that feeling. Take small steps to remind yourself that you are taking action. I find it helpful to practice breathing exercises when my fear gets triggered or repeat a mantra about being calm, confident, and in control when I feel anything but that. This grounds me —and even embrace—the stress and chaos that comes from taking a risk. Eventually, you'll be able to climb your own mountain with both speed and finesse.
4. Trust Yourself
When you embark on this risk, some people may try to talk you out of it or tell you to change course. In those moments, you have to trust yourself and war's best for you. You've committed to it. No one knows the vision behind it better than you do, so stay true to your gut. I don't mean that you shouldn't be open to advice, but make sure that your decisions are aligned with the direction you've laid out. Sometimes a run feels totally effortless—every force and condition is in sync That's the sweet spot I seek out in decision-making.
5. Embrace your successes and learn from your mistakes
It's important to embrace your successes and the feelings of excitement, confidence, or power after taking a risk. Take time to acknowledge your accomplishments. However, remember there will definitely be mistakes, too—and maybe moments of regret and self-doubt. Don't let them stop you. Learn from them and continue going forward.
Every day I'm learning from new challenges. While I hope for more epic runs than crashes, I'm aware that there will be plenty of both along the way.
Just know, though, I don't for a second regret taking this crazy entrepreneurial risk or partaking in any of my outdoor adventures —so look down the mountain, take a deep breath, and get after it.
Has anyone been told they are too much or feared you were too much for others? Have you ever not shared or downplayed your strengths because you cared what others thought of you? I have and choosing to come from a more empowering place and share what empowers me.
•My voice and laugh carries across a room. I'm vibrant, full of energy and value humor. I also know when to sit back and listen and observe, I learn a lot that way.
•I earned every bit of my education, certifications, and licensure. I’m proud of my hard work, determination and my commitment. I’m a lifelong learner and love to learn, be challenged and grow. I’ll be the 85 year old in class!
•I love deeply and I have a full range of emotions and feelings. I love big hugs. I’m a passionate human!
•I’ve managed my business for almost 12 years, I earned every penny with the work I put into it and 100% supported myself. Many times I wanted to throw in the towel but so glad I haven’t. My biz is in service of making a difference in other people’s lives, I’m lucky to have worked with some incredible clients.
•I’ve traveled the world and sometimes alone because at times I need that and I love it. I meet cool people that way. I’m an avid outdoors girl and love the challenge of climbing a beautiful mountain, trail running or biking. Some of my best conversations are on a trail or the middle of a lake.
•I appreciate my friendships and love connections with others. I also value my time alone to just be. I value my mind and body, and take care of myself.
•I’m resilient and strong. I’ve lost, I’ve grieved. I have been knocked down and life doesn’t always go my way. I make mistakes and make an effort to learn from them. But I get back up and go forward.
•I live by my terms not how someone says I should live. I like kids a lot, but perfectly fine not having my own. Although I want another dog.
•I’m single and live a full life, a partner will only add to my happiness. I am totally open to love, partnership with an incredible guy who loves me for who I am, and encourages me to be my best self. I have not given up on big, juicy, epic love. I will wait until it feels right.❤️
Live out loud, be you, be too much. Be your powerful amazing self. There may be people that will think you are too much, be true to you. You don’t have to play small, the right people will love and appreciate you for all of your greatness. Xoxo
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.