The good news is that your fate isn’t set. You get to decide how you want your day to go and to live purposefully.
It’s actually far more exhausting to not work than it is to work. It takes far more energy sitting with internal conflict and justification than it does to just get to work. Said Steven Pressfield, “Most of us have two lives: the life we live and the un-lived life within us. Between the two stands resistance.”
If your life feels out-of-balance, you’re likely avoiding the very thing you should be doing. Avoidance leads to distraction.
When I'm in flow at work or in my life, I feel more joy and vibrant. The world is a more beautiful and abundant place. I leave my work more energized than before I started. I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for my life. Others feel that energy from too.
Conversely, on days I’ve spent my working time in distraction, I don't feel as great and have low energy. You can’t see the energy-field around you, but it’s there.
You Can Make the Shift. I know what it feels like being stuck and without momentum.You can feel absolutely powerless to change your life and circumstances. But that’s not true. Feeling guilty about all the time you’ve wasted won’t help.
If you make a few tweaks to your approach, you’ll be surprised at how quickly your perception of the world and yourself will change. As your perception changes, everything around you will change.
Give one or two of these a try and watch what happens:
1. Have a weekly reflection and planning session
One day per week, take 10–30 minutes reflecting on your past six days. How did they go? What did you do or not do?
Getting down on yourself isn’t the purpose. Rather, being aware of how you’re doing is the purpose. Awareness facilitates empowerment to change. This need not take long, but it can dramatically improve the quality of your weeks and the days within those weeks.
2. At the end of each day, make your game plan for tomorrow
Having a plan eliminates the burden of choice. If you wake up without a plan, you will bounce from thing-to-thing without really doing anything. You won’t be focused or purposeful. It’s so much more powerful to wake up with a purpose and a clear reason to get up.
Taking just a minute or two at the end of your day to make a game plan for the next day will provide you the needed structure to purposefully move. Taking just 5 minutes to plan can save you hours.
3. Focus on today, not tomorrow
During your day, don’t worry about anything else. Follow your plan. Live today to the fullest and be the person you intend to be. After your day is complete, take a minute or two to outline your next day. Be mindful of distractions such as social media.
4. Three month energy cycles
When it comes to your future, you can break it down by your future vision/goals and your actual goals (present game plan) over the next 90 days. Framing your goals in three month increments gives you a clear plan to move toward. Of course, these goals are based on your longer-term goals. However, your 3-month goal cycles are your main focus. Just like your weekly planning sessions, every three months spend some time reflecting on your previous three months. Make any adjustments you need and make better plans for the next three months.
5. Organize yourself
Organize yourself. Clean out the weeds. It doesn’t matter how long it takes. The very act of cultivating your garden will enliven you. Every day, week, and year, you can make your garden a little more beautiful and fruitful. Clean up your finances. Clean up how you use your time. Clean up your relationships. Cultivate. Just a little bit every day. Once you start to get things organized, your soil of your life will be better suited for what you plant in it.
6. Build momentum
Perfection is not the goal. However, consistently making forward moving choices is the only way to get momentum. And momentum is exactly what you need. Consistency can build confidence and momentum.
So as you can see, setting yourself up for living on purpose isn’t all that hard. It may be as simple as spending 2 minutes the night before writing a plan. It may also be spending 15 minutes the Sunday before making a plan.
Whatever it is, you have a reason to live your life to the fullest. You may not know exactly what that reason is, but you’ll find it once you get moving. More than likely, you’ll realize that everything in your life is actually far more beautiful that you could previously perceive.
From this level of joy and purpose, you’ll be empowered to consciously create a future you are worthy of.
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.