What will you do with your one wild and precious life? ~ Mary Oliver
We have one life, how would you like to live yours? If you truly want something you must show up and take action. Step by step. This is key to crafting the life you want.
Keep showing up. Keep going. Do all or something. Take imperfect action. Ask for support. Learn to sit with discomfort. Take two steps forward, one step back. Do it scared and aware there is much you don’t know. Pick yourself up should you fall. Stay out of comparison. But keep showing up.
There are no magic pills, no collect $200 and advance to go, no bypassing the fact that if we say we want something – a good relationship, a thriving business, a healthy body, a decluttered home – we must show up and do the work.
This is the key to crafting the life you want. Getting clear on who and how we want to be, how we choose to spend our time, talents, and resources, requires some work.
Building anything of value requires deliberate action and likely some stress. Moving against status quo or staying focused on your top values and priorities, involves effort.
Talking about your vision is not the same as doing the work. Dreaming and filling in goal work worksheets or listening to podcasts – delightful and often useful but not the same as actually getting your hands messy.
There is no need for perfection and you don’t have to race. You don’t need to impress anyone else or make them approve. This is about you and what you want. One step at a time, build intentionally.
I’ve learned to just show up. I’ve taught myself to offer myself lots of compassion(still a process), take days off as needed, but not to stay stuck. I’ve learned that I’m not a failure if I struggle and I don’t have to look like or do life like anyone else. I don’t need to be perfect. My path is uniquely mine.
I know that I am strong and resilient. I learned this by taking one one step after another. Sometimes falling on my face.
We all meet with resistance. We have a tendency to self-sabotage. You may struggle with people-pleasing or trying to look good for others or trying to do all the things. Whatever your personality, you are offered the choice to show up, get honest about what you want out of life, and do the work to craft the life you want.
You can go slow, make a giant leap, you can fall off course, you can be messy and imperfect.
You can make mistakes, change your mind, and walk through difficult seasons. Keep showing up. One small step and then another.
Spend more time creating instead of watching what others are up to. Be you. Stop comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle.
Ditch the all or nothing lie that holds you back and keeps you stuck. It doesn’t mean it’s easy. It means it’s worthwhile. It may get easier in time.
Practice. Work at your craft or pick away at your dreams.
When you grow tired, learn to rest and not quit. Break down your goal into bite-size steps. When it feels really hard, just breathe. I don’t have a perfect life or body or business and I don’t need perfect. What I need and want is to live on purpose. My life is a work of art created intentionally. Sometimes it feels messy.
I’m cheering you onward as you craft the life you want. Reach out if you need support on crafting your life.
Photo: Grazalema National Park, Spain
There’s a world of difference between seeking growth from a place of feeling broken or messed up vs. stepping into growth from the perspective that you’re imperfect and you’re OK... and badass.
What if you approach growth or a desire to find deeper healing or freedom from the perspective that you are already enough? That wanting to learn and grow and become more fully yourself is great – but not a prerequisite for being enough. You are already enough.
What if you show up curious each day, open to learning and self-discovery but not berating yourself for being exactly who or where you are right now. You’re not wrong for where you’re at on the journey. And even if you never budged from this spot, you’re actually OK.
What if you decide to own your past and your pain but break off the shame attached to these stories. And you choose to be proud of yourself for fighting and not giving up. For choosing life.
What would change if you stopped living for external validation, affirmation, and you became your own best friend?
Could you reach out for help when you need it and realize that you’re brave; it takes incredible strength to ask for what you need.
What if you made the decision to trust the journey. To trust that we all struggle but if we just keep taking one stubborn step after another then chances are we will find ourselves one day in a broad place, a freer space, and realize that we have indeed grown and healed. Sometimes the change we seek comes when we’re not looking.
What if you only spoke to yourself with the same care and delight that you would offer to someone you loved? What if you believed in yourself the way you’d fiercely stand up for your bestie?
And how would it feel to forgive yourself quickly, and forgive others too; to stop all the comparing and just be the perfectly imperfect you.
I wonder what might happen if you made the decision to just love the body you’re in; if you nourished yourself with kindness and all sorts of good things.
You are colorful, beautiful artwork and we’re not meant to be the same.
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.