What lights you up? What is that thing you really want to do but haven’t done yet?
Maybe it sounds something like this….
I am going to quit my job and start a biz.
I am going to book a trip to New Zealand. (I highly recommend NZ by the way)
I am going to stand up for myself.
I am going to get a new job that lights me up.
I am going to tell that special someone I love them.
I am going to sign up for that race.
I am going to get in shape and feel healthy.
I am going to improve my relationships with my partner.
I am going to do that thing I keep talking about.
Does this sound familiar?
What are you not moving forward in? Maybe it’s one thing, maybe its a few. Write them down on a sticky note.
We all have things we want to do, dreams, beautiful visions for what we want our life to look like. You know, the ones that light us up and get excited about. Then there are the blocks, the stops, the delays in not going forward with our visions. Maybe it’s that little voice you hear- I’m not ready, I’m not enough, I don’t deserve that thing, I can’t do it.
Write these reasons on another sticky note. I like sticky notes. Look at this one next to your dreams and take a look.
So, what do you see?
Amazing life on one side and BS stories we tell ourselves on the other. The BS stories are made up, they don’t define who you are and the life you live. The stories will keep you from the life you want to create...if you choose.
I get it. Been there. I remember all the fears and doubts coming up when I started my business, the reinvention of my career, my first time traveling internationally solo and my first race. It went from “I’m so freaking excited” to "what the hell am I doing?” One story is totally disempowering and the other is more empowering and way more fun! It was also my choice of which place to come from.
Post that sticky note of what you want to create somewhere where you can see it daily. Recycle the other one.
This is your life to create…dream big and take action! If you need a little support getting there, reach out to me!
PS: Picture from a backpacking trip in Peru on our way to Machu Picchu after climbing our highest peak at about 16,000 ft. elevation!
Somehow we learned to have date expectations on what we will accomplish and what's supposed to happen in our life. It starts off as a child- we will walk by age 1, have a drivers license at age 16, go to college and graduate by age 21, get married and have babies in our 20’s etc. The list goes on.
I went to college and graduated relatively “on time”, went to graduate school, graduated and gained employment. I met my future husband, got married in my 20’s. Then in my early 30’s...divorce. Wait, that wasn’t the plan! I thought I was supposed to get married, have babies and live happily after? Ok that was what I thought in my 20’s and that there was a certain path I thought I needed to follow in order to be successful.
Although I was devastated by divorce and the stigma around it, this event set me on a new trajectory. I had the opportunity for reinvention and this time, on my terms. I challenged old belief systems of what I thought had to do and traded it with what I want to do.
Right after divorce, I went to Costa Rica and traveled. I adore travel and adventure and love seeing the world. I always had dreams of being self-employed, so I started my own business- a counseling private practice. Through having my own business, I gained a greater sense of self-confidence as I was making it happen and doing it on my own. I followed my heart and went for it and 12 years later I am still self-employed!
I went on to travel the world and have been to some amazing places. I developed my original love for the outdoors and began hiking a lot more. I have hiked all over the world. I began running and challenging myself through races. I developed my passion for my hobbies and met some incredible people along the way.
So a couple years ago I hit a plateau in my life. So I hired my own coach and then followed a long time dream of mine- to become a coach! I enrolled in a rigorous one year program and here I am, building a new business…at 45! Reinvention again!
So, not everything happens on an unexpected time line. I let go of societal expectations and limiting expectations of myself. By setting aside these expectations, I discovered that it gave me the mental space to realize that I AM far greater and deserving than the limited expectations I had once put on myself. Belief systems of what I “should be” were now squashed by what I “could be” and “would be”. I also discovered I am far greater than the expectations others have put on me.
Let me tell you, this hasn’t happened with out fear. I had a ton of fear, anxiety. I had grief of my divorce and the loss of my dad. I grieved the loss of my in-laws that I adored. It took some time, but I allowed myself to feel all the feelings I needed to feel- anger, sadness, grief, and joy and excitement.
My life shifted when I really let go of those expectations and began trying new things. As I said above, I am far greater than the expectations myself or others placed on me. When I think about all the experiences over the years, I get excited because I made them happen....I did it!
Every time that I hiked a mountain, tried something new, traveled a new place, ran a race, the old version of me dissolved giving way to a far more integrated me.
I chose to stretch myself mentally and physically, placing Unlimited Potential for my new life and growing in ways I never thought possible.
I have dreams and visions of what I will create next. I want to be me, I want to give back, I want to inspire others, I want to love hard, I want to see more of this amazing world. I get to reinvent myself at any age…. on my own timeline.
What would reinvention look like to you if you push your limiting beliefs aside, get adventurous, and see what is possible?? I can’t wait to hear!!
Life and Leadership Coach, Licensed Counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.