Reinvent Yourself & Be Who You Want To Be

Somehow we learned to have date expectations on what we will accomplish and what's supposed to happen in our life. It starts off as a child- we will walk by age 1,  have a drivers license at age 16, go to college and graduate by age 21, get married and have babies in our 20’s etc. The list goes on.

I went to college and graduated relatively “on time”, went to graduate school, graduated and gained employment.  I met my future husband, got married in my 20’s. Then in my early 30’s...divorce. Wait, that wasn’t the plan! I thought I was supposed to get married, have babies and live happily after? Ok that was what I thought in my 20’s and that there was a certain path I thought I needed to follow in order to be successful.  

Although I was devastated by divorce and the stigma around it, this event set me on a new trajectory. I had the opportunity for reinvention and this time, on my terms. I challenged old belief systems of what I thought had to do and traded it with what I want to do.

Right after divorce, I went to Costa Rica and traveled. I adore travel and adventure and love seeing the world. I  always had dreams of being self-employed, so I started my own business- a counseling private practice. Through having my own business, I gained a greater sense of self-confidence as I was making it happen and doing it on my own. I followed my heart and went for it and 12 years later I am still self-employed! 

I went on to travel the world and have been to some amazing places. I developed my original love for the outdoors and began hiking a lot more. I have hiked all over the world. I began running and challenging myself through races. I developed my passion for my hobbies and met some incredible people along the way.

So a couple years ago I hit a plateau in my life. So I hired my own coach and then followed a long time dream of mine- to become a coach!  I enrolled in a rigorous one year program and here I am, building a new business…at 45! Reinvention again!

​So, not everything happens on an unexpected time line. I let go of societal expectations and limiting expectations of myself. By setting aside these expectations, I discovered that it gave me the mental space to realize that I AM far greater and deserving than the limited expectations I had once put on myself. Belief systems of what I “should be” were now squashed by what I “could be” and “would be”.  I also discovered I am far greater than the expectations others have put on me.

Let me tell you, this hasn’t happened with out fear. I had a ton of fear, anxiety. I had grief of my divorce and the loss of my dad. I grieved the loss of my in-laws that I adored. It took some time, but I allowed myself to feel all the feelings I needed to feel- anger, sadness, grief, and joy and excitement.  

My life shifted when I really let go of those expectations and began trying new things. As I said above, I am far greater than the expectations myself or others placed on me.  When I think about all the experiences over the years, I get excited because I made them happen....I did it! 

Every time that I hiked a mountain, tried something new, traveled a new place, ran a race,  the old version of me dissolved giving way to a far more integrated me.  

I chose to stretch myself mentally and physically, placing Unlimited Potential for my new life and growing in ways I never thought possible.  

I have dreams and visions of what I will create next.  I want to be me, I want to give back, I want to inspire others, I want to love hard, I want to see more of this amazing world. I get to reinvent myself at any age…. on my own timeline. 

​What would reinvention look like to you if you push your limiting beliefs aside, get adventurous, and see what is possible??  I can’t wait to hear!! 

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